How to stop the bullshit talk of the ego mind when you want to make a change in your life? Our ego is formed from our past conditioning, from early childhood and up. When we are on a journey to make big decisions in life. Perhaps a healing journey, spirituality, losing weight, changes in career, finding a new job position, whatever it may be. We have been putting in the work and learning new skills, but our ego mind won’t stop with its bullshit negative self-talk.
You may be on a healing journey and making great progress. Then one morning you wake up with flared symptoms, right away your ego mind starts with the negative self-talk with “see I knew I can’t heal myself”. You feel like crap within your own body, the emotional feeling of fear and dread start bubbling up, and you have self-doubts. Our ego’s voice is there again telling us why we can’t “fill in the blank” First of all, let me say that healing is not linear. I can’t even count how many ups and downs I had along my healing journey from MS and chronic spine pain from degenerative bone disease.
Our Past Conditioning Is Where Our Ego Was Born
Our ego is formed in childhood all before the age of 8. We learned what parts of ourselves were acceptable and what parts of us were not accepted. As small children our consciousness becomes fractured. Like small streams running off a main river. We learned to suppress, disown, repress, and deny parts of our authentic Self. Here is where our ego was born. Our ego was born out of unacceptance, so when healing we need to accept ourselves just the way we are without judgment.
Making Desired Shifts and Changes In Life
Understand and know that whatever we are trying to shift or change in our lives, the ego mind is trying to survive. It is trying to keep us safe and in a comfort zone. The ego does not like change. Our ego will do and say anything it can to keep us in our comfort zone. The ego has lots of bullshit and negative self-dialogue. This is an illusion, you are not the past conditioning you took on as a child. You are worthy of the desired changes and shifts you want in your life, no matter what that is for you.
Spiritual Journey
When we are on a spiritual journey, it is not learning, it is unlearning all that we have been conditioned to. It is unlearning all that we have absorbed as our truth. Our conditioning is not our truth, it is not who we truly are. We are extensions of source energy, and we can do and have anything we want in life. We are worthy to strive for all that we wish to be and have.
Shut Down The Ego’s Negative Self Dialogue
Know this negative self-talk is bullshit, don’t listen to it, shut it down. Replace your thoughts with what you are grateful for. Fill your thoughts with the people in your life that you love. Take a walk out in nature. Listen to music you love or sit and meditate. Tell yourself, “I am not my conditioning” “I am not self-doubt” “I am not fear” and “I am not anxiety” My ego is a liar, these thoughts and feelings are not who I truly am.
Give your ego a name, mine is Ralph. I tell my ego “not today Ralph” when negative self-talk starts, I shut it down quickly. Replacing negative self-talk with positive thoughts, and visualizing my heart and body filling with source love and light. Put your thoughts back on a positive track, and focus on the WHY you want to make the change in your life.
Weight Loss Journey
You may be on a weight loss journey, and yesterday you fell off your diet. This morning you woke up feeling like shit, regrets, and maybe feeling a little shame. Let it go, yesterday is gone, today is a new day. Don’t let your ego talk shit to you and make you feel negative emotions. Today is a new day and you can get back on your diet today. Don’t let guilt or shame come in through the ego mind, for it is a liar. You are strong enough and deserve to lose the weight you wish to, become healthier, and look and feel awesome within your body. Don’t let the ego talk shit to you.
Don’t let others’ negative comments throw you off either. When others make comments or judgments, they can only make them from a place of their own conditioning and a place where they have resistance to their own changes in their life. We all make mistakes, we all mess up. We all have that nasty ego that tries to stop us, just remember it is the ego trying to survive. It doesn’t like change. It will lie and bullshit you every step of the way if you let it.
We Can Do and Have Whatever We Wish In Life
Who or what you want to do with your own life, you can do and have anything you wish. Make the intention and put one foot in front of the other to get there. Detach yourself from the outcome for spirit is walking with you. Spirit knows what you want and the least resistant path to get you there. Let go of the resistance of our ego mind. don’t listen to its negative dialogue and negative self-talk. Shut it down, tell it not today Ralph, and change your focus. Don’t listen to others’ negative input, judgment, and opinions when it comes to what you want to do with your own life.
The Ego Does Not Like Change
When we want to make big changes in our lives there will always be resistance within us. Our ego mind does not like change, it wants to keep us where we are, it wants to keep us in our comfort zone. As life we are here to experience life, not to avoid it. We are here to learn and grow, to expand who we are, not play it safe or small. We are here to shine in any way that brings us happiness and joy.
Our Nervous System Holds Our Past Pain and Trauma https://1111newme.com/2023/03/08/the-nervous-system-holds-our-past-trauma/
How to Separate the Ego Mind from the Self https://bestselfmedia.com/ego-mind/
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