The meaning of the unconscious mind, or the subconscious mind, is that it “defines everything about us.” Our conscious mind is our action mind, going through daily routines and making decisions. The unconscious mind is not in our awareness; it’s like the bottom half of an underwater iceberg; you don’t know it’s there. We are only aware of the top of the iceberg above the water, “our conscious mind.”
Unconscious vs. Conscious Mind and Its Power
The unconscious mind is 5000 times stronger than our conscious mind. Our unconscious or “subconscious” mind is like a computer system collecting data and running every second of our life. It works as a storage memory bank warehouse for each experience we encounter in life. The emotions, feelings, whether there was a good or bad experience. The location of these experiences, your age, and who was there. It also stores our belief system. There are beliefs in our unconscious mind that we are not even aware of. These unknown beliefs can significantly influence our behavior and choices and affect our decisions. When we compare our conscious mind to our unconscious mind, our conscious mind remembers very little.
Unconscious Mind Meaning
Example: How We Emotionally Deal With What Others Think or Say About Us
How we feel, process, react, and emotionally deal with what others think and say about us. Individuals highly affected by what others think of them have unconscious influences that continue through adulthood from childhood conditioning. Every disapproving thought or word directed at us by others wallops us within our core. Some people are more than just hurt; some are entirely crushed. As a result, it sends them into a deep emotional downward spiral.
Why Does What Others Think and Say About Us Hurt Some People So Bad? Unconscious Mind Meaning/Emotional Energy
Being told by anyone to stop caring what others think will not stop us from caring. Telling ourselves we will stop caring what others think, say, or how they react towards us in a disapproving manner will not work either. We need to understand it is not a conscious choice, for I assure you it is not. If you or someone you know cares what others say, you become emotionally hurt by what others feel and say about you. Neither one will be able to choose to stop letting it affect you consciously.
Behavioral Conditioning: Scientific Research Experiments On Rats
The rats are conditioned in scientific research using shock and sugar tabs. The rats are drilled with the sugar to produce the desired behavior, and the electric shock stops the rats from the undesired behavior.
We, humans, are not so different in our conditioning. As children, we are rewarded with sweet goodies when we behave the way our parents want us to. Then we are punished when we show undesired behavior our parents disapprove of. As a result, we were yelled at, producing the same body response, almost identical to what the rats’ experienced.
As Children, Our Boundaries Were Violated With Big Consequences
- Repressed “Anger”
- Repressed “Shame”
- Feelings of “Abandonment”
- Fear of “Abandonment”
- Feeling as if “We Don’t Deserve Love”
An unconscious mind means that our boundaries were violated with enormous consequences for some of us. The violation happened when people in our early years disapproved of our behavior. Such as being spanked, insulted, or shamed for these incoming violations. In comparison, others experienced conditioning to behave with outgoing violations. As a result, the child was put in time out and experienced withdrawal from the parents’ or caregiver’s attention.
It seems as if people who suffer the most when caring about what others think of them are more damaged by the outgoing violations. At a very young age, many children are punished in ways that make them feel abandoned. Many of us think we didn’t or do not deserve love because we were not behaving in a way that pleased our parents or anyone else.
So Why Do We Take Things Personally? Unconscious mind meaning
When we were children, our parents treated us as if we were, not the action or behaviors we presented. We learned it was about us. When we do something wrong or bad, it also makes us wrong or bad. As a result, in our subconscious, we hold severe issues with disappointment, disapproval, rejection, and criticism because our self-esteem was, and still is, dependent on approval.
May Our Need To Be Loved and Belonging Be More Important Than Our Human Basic Survival?
Human basic survival needs:
- Food
- Water
- Shelter
Why do I bring this question to our attention?
What happens when we are in an emotional state of hurt and pain? Whether we have lost someone to death, lost love through a breakup, or lost a dear friend.
Example: What is the first thing we stop doing?
- We stop eating
- We stop drinking
- Some individuals go through such emotional pain they go to the extreme of hurting themselves, even to the extreme of taking their own life.
We All Must Ask Ourselves, “Should I Stop Caring What Others Think?
This is not an easy question. We must answer it ourselves, for the true answer is within you. Should I stop caring what others think?
Everyone cares what others think. Every person has at least one person in their life whom they care a lot about what they think about us. We, as humans, need validation. Most people don’t truly understand what validation is. Many think it’s praise or encouragement when it actually isn’t. Validation is confirmation of something that is logically sound. To validate someone is to say they are correct and truthful in their perception. Validation is the recondition that your feelings and thoughts are honest and true to you. Regardless of logic, or that it makes sense to anyone else. Therefore, this develops a strong sense of self and is not dependent on other people.
How To Reach Our Subconscious Mind, Clear It Out And Heal-
“If only I could let go, my life would be so much better!” “Life could be so much better if I could just let it go….“
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by repetitive feelings of regret, guilt, resentment, anger, sadness, or frustration?
What if you could learn how to let go of your past negative self-talk, be at peace with yourself, and be fully available to what really matters?
We all have sticky thoughts, feelings, or memories that come in without asking permission. They are often repetitive, annoying, and sometimes even painful.
We really would rather not have to deal with those unwanted sticky thoughts. They slow us down, making us unavailable to enjoy life here and now. They cause stress and anxiety and drain our energy. The energy we could use to focus on actualizing our dreams and aspirations.
You are hurting yourself, yet it seems you can’t help it. It feels like, in some aspects, you are not in control of your life. Specific sticky thoughts, memories, and feelings can come up at any time, keep you busy, and make you suffer—while your life passes through your fingers.
Maybe Your Mind Is Stuck In:
Questions you can never answer satisfactorily, like “Why did this happen…” or “What if…?“
- Never-ending replays of a past event
- Wishful thinking (you wish your past were different, or you had acted differently, or you were a different person)
- Feelings of victimization and fantasies of revenge
Resistance in accepting what has happened to you, how you acted in your past, or a future that can never happen, and you feel that you can’t let these go.
Does that sound familiar? Subconscious Blocks Can Run Deep
Having sticky thoughts/feelings seems to be a universal element of our lives.
For some of us, these are painful experiences in our past—such as an abusive family member, bullying, a bad breakup, or unfair treatment at work. These are experiences of pain, injustice, broken expectations, and even trauma. Yet, they keep coming up in the form of resentment, blame, anger, and confusion, and you don’t know what to do with them.
Holding Regret, Guilt, and Shame May Be Stored In Our Subconscious Mind Without Our Knowledge. It Shows Its Self In Our Outer World: Unconscious Mind Meaning
For others, it is regret and guilt about things said or done. Perhaps you hurt others with your words and actions. You may feel you failed in some significant area in your life, missed a valuable opportunity, or allowed something terrible to happen. These keep coming up as negative self-talk, shame, and self-criticism. You can’t seem to accept and forgive yourself, which hurts.
Letting Go Of Emotional Pain
Or it could be that something you loved ended or that you looked forward to in life is no longer possible. It could be a future opportunity that will no longer happen, the passing away of a loved one, a breakup, or a phase in your life that is coming to an end. There is now a feeling of emptiness, sadness, lack of vitality, and uncertainty in the place of what changed. You feel that there is not much hope and don’t know where to go next in life.
Or perhaps your mind is just stuck like a broken record in a negative thought pattern—such as self-criticism—or on beliefs and desires that no longer serve you.
Whatever it is, the situation is the same: a sticky thought or emotion is unhelpful but keeps coming back. You want to let it go, but it just feels like you can’t, like it’s impossible.
What do you need to let go of? How are your sticky thoughts/feelings hurting you?
Why is this such a big deal?
Because in this state, you are being tortured by your mind—while your mind should be your best friend.
These sticky thoughts and feelings take a lot of your energy, time, and head-space, without producing anything but pain. They go on and on day after day, like a broken record. As a result, you cannot live in the moment and cannot fully enjoy your life. You have less energy to dedicate to what matters to you. It even negatively affects your relationships and those around you.
You want to bring things to a close and stop this madness, but at times these thoughts and memories seem stronger than you, and you may feel you can’t do much about them.
But that is not true. It is always possible to let go if you use the right tools and approach. And life can be so much better once you do.
Life Can Be Different: How to Turn Off Your Emotions
We don’t turn off our emotions but learn how to control them and feel them fully. Know that they are valid. We learn to healthily deal with them by letting go at the right time for healing. We know how not to suppress them by pushing them down deep inside, which only causes us more pain. Not only pain but suffering an illness or disease from holding onto suppressed painful emotions. What would your life be like if you could let go of your sticky thoughts and feelings, accept things as they are, and forgive?
Healing Your Past and Loving Life Again
Imagine how it would feel to wake up with a blank slate every day. Your past has been healed and integrated and is no longer weighing you down. Your energy is here and now, available for living life at the moment, engaging positively with people, and walking the path toward your goals.
You feel light and open as if a bunch of dead weight has lifted. Your vision is clear. There is less stress in your body, and you also feel healthier since you have let go of many negative emotions that were poisoning you.
You may still not be happy with some things that happened, but you have learned the lessons and changed your relationship with your past. Maybe you have moved on and, finally, feel at peace with yourself. You are available for life in the present to be who you want to be.
Learn How To Accept Yourself and What Life Brings
Know how to accept yourself and accept what life brings you. You have learned to forgive others, forgive yourself, and be grateful for whatever life brings.
Life feels simpler, your mind feels clear, and it even seems like you have more time—since you are less busy with needless thoughts and negative feelings.
Let Go Of Your Past Life Experiences: Let Go Of Conscious and Subconscious Weights
Your attachments are like weights in a hot air balloon: the more weight you let go of, the higher you fly. Not only that, but you cease to suffer needlessly and end up enjoying the ride more as well.
Letting go allows you to focus on building yourself and your future rather than trying to figure out your past, re-live your suffering, and criticize yourself for all the wrong things you did and how you could be better.
Letting go is a possibility for you right now.
Okay, so there are things you need to let go of. And you know that you’ll feel much better once you do.
But how to do it?
You might have tried many things, and none of them worked 100%. Perhaps you bought a book, read some blog posts, watched YouTube videos about it, or even went to a seminar—but those resources only addressed part of the problem, and you still can’t seem to let go.
You might have tried to convince yourself a thousand times why you should let go, but it seems that the thoughts are sticking to you and not you. They feel like invisible shackles. You wonder if you have a resistance toward letting go or are secretly sabotaging the process deep down.
You might have unconsciously sought distraction or relief from the pain of those emotions through things like chocolate, Netflix, alcohol, or bad habits. They seem to work well—but only for a few minutes. After that, you are back to square one and may now have to deal with the adverse side effects of those coping mechanisms.
You might have picked up a meditation practice to help you let go. That is an essential aspect of the process, but it’s not enough. You try to watch the thoughts and let them pass, and you may do that with some thoughts, but when those sticky thoughts and feelings come, it’s another story. No matter how much you let them pass, they keep coming without an end.
You might have tried making a solid decision to let go and move on, only to find that resolution dissolving into nothingness the next day as you continue to focus on the same thoughts. It’s like your mind doesn’t obey you but rather follows its own whims.
Blaming Yourself or Others
Finally, you might have tried blaming others or yourself—only to discover that blame doesn’t help. It keeps you stuck because it distracts your attention from doing the personal work that would fix the problem. It keeps you a victim, and being a victim is painful.
Letting go is not always simple or easy. Even though we suffer from our attachments, we find it hard to let them go. It’s because we believe so many lies about what letting go is! Simply because we haven’t been taught the right tools in the right way.
Until today-
Letting Go, Letting Be: Learning to Accept, Forgive and Move On
The ability to let go, accept, and move on has served me tremendously in all areas of my life. I cannot imagine how my life would be without it. Yet I realize that letting go is one of the main challenges for most people I talk to.
That is why I’ve decided to put together everything I’ve learned about letting go, all the tools I developed and refined over the years, into a 3-week online course so that you can also master this aspect of your life. The lessons are short, easy to follow, and highly practical—you can access them all through the web or the iPhone app.
Without spending thousands of dollars on endless therapy and coaching, you can now learn all the tools you need at your own pace, from the comfort of your home, and with personal support in a private forum. This course includes meditation techniques, mindfulness, personal growth exercises, and wisdom teachings to help you let go and live more on your terms.
You will learn how to:
- Know for sure when to let go and when to hold on
- Generate the energy and clarity needed actually to let go.
- Release blame and take back control over your life
- Stop sabotaging yourself and truly be ready to move on
- Use fail-proof techniques to bring things to closure for you
- Awaken your “inner fire” with special breathing exercises, meditations, and Yoga postures
- Create the space you need in your life to figure things out and start again
- Guide yourself to the point where letting go is your only option
- Forgive yourself, letting go of regret, guilt, and negative self-talk
- Forgive other people, letting go of resentment and anger
- Develop compassion for yourself and others
- Accept what you cannot change in yourself and your life, and be at peace with it
- Make a permanent resolution to let go
- Integrate your wounds so they become your superpowers
- Find the hidden gift in whatever happens to you in life
- Let go of the old without leaving a void behind, but instead, find out what’s next for you in life
- Develop the meditative practice of witnessing and enjoying the freedom and peace it brings
- Practice meditation techniques, such as Yoga Nidra, Inner Silence, and others, focused on letting go.
- Deal with strong emotions, recurring memories, and repetitive thoughts
- Use letting go as the door to a spiritual path
It May Feel Impossible To Let Go, but That Is Not True!
Sometimes it may feel like it’s impossible to let go because the situation is so bad. But that’s not true—with the right tools, you can do it. Moreover, you can make that choice right now!
When a significant change happens in your life, it is easy to get stuck in it for a long time. Or you can realize that this is a precious opportunity—it is the time for you to reinvent yourself (or rediscover yourself). The choices and attitudes you develop now will have profound implications for the rest of your life. Wouldn’t it be better to have the right tools and teachings to ensure you take the proper steps?
This course will take you through the journey, giving you all the tools you need to fully let go of whatever sticky thoughts, feelings, or memories are haunting you—and to find yourself again. I am here to support your development, shorten the path and walk with you in the right direction.
If what I have shared here has struck a chord with you, you will love the course!
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So if you think there is even the slightest chance that this course can help you, enroll right now; this way, you can try the material over the next 30 days and see if it’s right for you.
No guesswork is needed—zero risk.
It’s time to choose your present and future over your past—it’s time to choose yourself.
The result will be transformational. Your future self will thank you for this.
Everyone Has Something We Need To Let Go
Everyone has something they need to let go of. Learning to let go is an essential skill for living a good and happy life—because it gives you the power to focus on what matters to you and stop suffering needlessly.
Whatever you focus on grows and becomes a reality for you. It shapes your mind, your way of seeing things, your choices, and the destiny you create for yourself. So being able to let go of what no longer serves you. Focus on what you want to create is perhaps the most essential skill in personal growth. Otherwise, you’ll keep creating the things you least like in life for yourself.
Life is uncertain, and we will always face unexpected, undesirable, and unfair situations. As a result, we find ourselves struggling with some sticky thoughts, memories, or feelings again and again.
The cost of not learning the art of letting go keeps repeating suffering, lost opportunities, and being stuck. But, on the other hand, once you know the trick of letting go, things can only hurt you once in your life.
It is your choice to learn how to deal with it, move through life more smoothly, or be bogged down by sticky feelings each time they arise.
You have a choice. Always.
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